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LIfe Lesson #2 - Most interpersonal conflicts can be resolved via a friendly game of Rock-Paper-Scissors
Conflict is a part of every relationship. Psychologists suggest that how one manages said conflict will determine the fate of the relationship. Dr. JLo says the best way to manage conflict is to leave resolution up to fate. She believes that the quickest way to find fate is via ROCK-PAPER-SCISSORS! Let's take a look at how this concept can be applied in the following vignettes.
*ONE...TWO...THREE...SHOOT!*
SCENARIO A:
Boy: "Hey babe, where do you want to go for dinner tonight?"
Girl: "I was thinking I wanted to try that new sushi place off Broward and US 1."
Boy: "Hellls no! You know I hate sushi. I can't stand the texture of raw fish. I want to go to Noodles Panini on Las Olas".
Girl: "Ugh, I like Noodles Panini, but we ALWAYS go there. We always have to do what you want to do."
Boy: "Hey, I went with you to the mall allll day today while you tried on shoe after effing shoe. I do what you want too."
Girl: "You said you didn't mind going shopping with me and that I was CUTE!"
Boy: "Well, I LIED! Okay? I hate the effing mall and I hate you!"
Girl: "If you hate me and the things I enjoy, maybe we should just break up!"
Boy: "Fine with me. Go on, get outta here, SCRAM!"
Girl: "I am soooo outta here, LOSER!"
*Mutual exchanges of fingers of fury, couple departs ways.*
SCENARIO B:
Boy: "Hey babe, where do you want to go for dinner tonight?"
Girl: "I was thinking I wanted to try that new sushi place off Broward and US 1."
Boy: "Hellls no! You know I hate sushi. I can't stand the texture of raw fish. I want to go to Noodles Panini on Las Olas".
Girl: "Ugh, I like Noodles Panini, but we ALWAYS go there. We always have to do what you want to do."
Boy: "I know Boo, but I really don't like sushi. Shall we resolve this with Rock-Paper-Scissors?"
Girl: *giggle* "Oh hunny bunny you are so cute. Okay."
*ONE...TWO...THREE...SHOOT!*
Girl holds her hand out flat, indicating paper. Boy has hand balled into fist, indicating rock.
Girl: "Paper covers Rock! Yeah, I win! We get to go to the sushi place!"
Boy: "Okay, sweetie. Anything for my boo. God, I just love you so much!"
*Couple holds hands and skips away.*
As you can see, Scenario B is by far the superior conflict resolution option.
Thank you for reading.
Good day.
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ReplyDeleteYou just did Liz. You just did. Thanks for reading!
ReplyDeletei've read a lot of material regarding the survival of a marriage relies on how you go about resolving conflict, too. very interesting stuff. i like the R,P,S approach. i'm gonna try that next time.
ReplyDeletebabe 1: the paper towel holder that you just put up is super crooked.
babe 2: i used the level so i don't think so.
babe 1: look at it. it's halfway pointing to hell and halfway pointing to heaven. it's a hot mess. needs to be fixed.
babe 2: i don't want to fix it because i used the level.
babe 1: okay then. how about R,P,S to decide if you fix this?
babe 2: sounds good.
babe 1: i win. can you fix it please?
babe 2: will do!
hahahaha Erin! I am glad that you decided to use my intervention and that it was successful for you!
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